The Mechanic and Body Guard Nannies

One only has to be in a village or in a meeting with mothers to see how loved a baby is in the traditional cultural settings of Kenya.  At Mentor University we have two young mothers with babies – Damaris from Mt. Kulal with baby Anonn, 9 months, and Judy from Kargi with baby Brian, 5 months.  While the training session is being conducted, the babies are nursed or they sleep in their mothers laps.  There is no equipment to “handle” the baby – no jolly jumpers, no scooters, no playpens.

Maina, BOMA's Driver and Mechanic and baby Brian

When the babies are awake they are passed from person to person. They are hugged, cuddled and kissed by men and women alike.  When the baby becomes too much of a distraction we pass Brian and Anon out to our appointed BOMA nannies – Maina, the mechanic and driver, and Semeji, our AK47-toting security guard.  They walk with the babies, rock them and sing them songs.

My personal observation of the northern Kenyan culture is that love and charitable acts are practiced in the extreme.  Members of a family are expected to care for their extended family as well as their neighbors.   Unlike western culture, where traditionally a man is expected to care for his wife and children, in this culture a man has the significant burden of caring for not only his immediate family but also for his parents, and siblings and his wife’s parents and siblings. Visitors can show up at your home and you are expected to provide a place to sleep and food to eat.

Seneji, BOMA's Security Man, and Anon

Within families, it is sometimes expected that a man care for at least one of his wife’s siblings which may include sponsoring them to the highest level of education.  In theory, this encourages development in both families but this responsibility can become a significant burden for men.

So today in the training session we are our own extended family and the babies in our midst are lovingly cared for.  Semeji’s joyful manner attracts babies and children of all ages and it is especially poignant to see him surrounded by children, when he still has none of his own.  I hope he will be soon blessed with a baby that will join this extended family.

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About Mama Rungu

Founder and CEO The Boma Project
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3 Responses to The Mechanic and Body Guard Nannies

  1. Polly says:

    Damaris has a baby?! How lovely! From the picture it looks like a baby girl? I come from a long line of men who have loved and adored babies, and it has passed down to my son…but it embarrasses him! My son is a first generation American–and it’s so not OK, in the US, for man to coo and cuddle and sing to a baby like a woman would.

  2. Mary Stone says:

    Such a great posting Kathleen, no “equipment” – LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED!

  3. Chamberlain Kit says:

    Hoping Semeji makes warrior eyes to amuse the children. Cute to see Semejii and “Bob”.

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